Beanstalk Single Mums

How to get out of debt and transform your life

Debt is a dirty word for many. But it needn’t be.

People get into debt for a variety of reasons, many of which are outside our control. And the sooner you can admit to debt distress, the sooner you are able to reach out and get the help you need.

This is where Kitty Thomas from Debt Angel Solutions comes in with her transformational debt consolidation skills.

In this episode we chat about Kitty’s own experience with debt and why it has inspired her to help others, as well as her mission to remove the stigma around debt. We then discuss the warning signs we should look for which indicate debt distress and how getting out debt is completely life changing. Very importantly Kitty explains why bankruptcy is not the only answer to relieve debt, you have other options and need to know them all. Finally, we guide you through the very first steps to take if you are in debt distress.

How divorce coaching will save you money, time and stress

Need a secret weapon for your separation? I have one for you. It’s divorce coaching.

You may not have heard of divorce coaching before. And if you have, you may discard it as an unnecessary extra in your separation process. But you seriously shouldn’t.

In this podcast I chat to Anne-Marie Cade from Divorce Right about all things divorce coaching, and you may be surprised by what you learn.

Our discussion includes what divorce coaching is and how it works, as well as how it will actually save you money, not cost you more. There are so many other benefits of working with a divorce coach so we chat about all of them. And finally, Anne-Marie explains how to find a good divorce and know they are the right one for you. So, you can start you hunt for one as soon as you are ready!

How to let go of the wrong relationship

Are you in a rut with your relationship?

Not all relationships are right for us. Or perhaps they were once right, but have run their course, and no longer are. There are many reasons why we stay in a wrong relationship. And these reasons can make it hard to end it.

Sound familiar? If so, this podcast with Relationship Expert, Leah, from Honour Your Breakup is well-worth the 30-minute listen.

We chat about how to recognise the warning signs that you may be in the wrong relationship, and how to leave a relationship that is no longer serving you. We discuss why so many of us stay in relationships that are unhealthy and not right. Plus, we learn how to get into the right headspace to finish a relationship. Leah shares her tips to recover from the ‘fallout’ of ending it (even if it wasn’t right, it’s still sad). Finally, and really interestingly, she also teaches us about the biology around a breakup i.e. why you feel like you do. Oh and she even shares her Breakup Boss playlist with us!

Simple steps to a DIY divorce

It’s so bloody easy to divorce when you know how. When we think of divorce we think of lawyers, big bucks and a long-drawn-out process. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

And to tell us how, I chat to Belinda Eldridge from Divide – Simple Financial Separation.

We cover everything you need to know to DIY your divorce, including the exact criteria that makes you eligible for divorce, as well as the importance of your separation date and how to record it. We discuss the pros and cons of applying for divorce on your own, or as a couple, and how to use the Commonwealth Court Portal to apply for a divorce. Belinda shares details on divorce costs including concessions and comparable costs if you use lawyers. Plus, she tells us about the best divorce video ever. Very importantly, she red flags the mistakes you might make and how to avoid them. And for the next step after divorce she tells us how and when to organise your financial settlement.

The secrets to purchasing the perfect property

It’s a huge move … when it comes to buying property you need to get it 100% right.

For many of us it is overwhelming. So much so, that we never even attempt it.

It is for this reason that I chat to expert and Buyers Agent, Michelle May to get the lowdown on how to buy the right property for you. And believe me, there is LOTS to consider.

Yet, getting on the property ladder is one of the best financial moves we can make as single mums. This information-packed podcast will encourage and guide you in your home-buying adventure.

Listen to us discuss the advantages of purchasing a property as a single mother (yes there are many!), the importance of foresight and whether to buy with our hearts, our heads, or both. Michelle explains the key things to look for to know if our dream home is also a good investment, as well as the biggest mistakes we can make and how to avoid them. We also discuss the pros and cons of using a mortgage broker, and who else we should engage to guide us.

The 4-step pathway to an amicable divorce

Work with your ex! You may think we are mad!

The words ‘divorce’ and ‘amicable’ are rarely used in the same sentence. But there are so many benefits to working with your ex, rather than against him, during your separation process.

No-one can explain this better than Anne-Marie Cade who is a single mum to three and an award-winning Lawyer, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner, Nationally Accredited Mediator and founder of Divorce Right.

In this podcast we discuss her simple yet effective 4-step pathway. This includes the benefit of being amicable during the divorce process, now and in the future; the 4 steps that Anne-Marie suggests and what’s involved in each; the importance of a mediator and what results you can expect; why court is not the best option to resolve your separation issues; and how to get the process started right now for an amicable divorce.

 

How to recover from a narcissistic relationship

Narc, narc, narc … every man seems to be a narcissist nowadays. It is a word used far too lightly.

But for those who have experienced a true narcissist, you will know that extricating yourself from the relationship can be one of the hardest things of all. You can feel broken, crazy and emotionally drained. But you can regain your power and your inner-strength as well as protecting your financial future, and most importantly, your children.

And nobody knows this better than Megan Holgate, who has not only experienced the destructiveness of being with and breaking up with a narcissist, but is now a Divorce and Narcissist Recovery Coach.

We discuss the true traits of a narcissist and how these traits affect your relationship; the first steps to recovery (understanding and acceptance) and how to reach them; dealing with difficult emotions; how to support your children who may also be experiencing control issues with your ex-partner; and finally tips to break the cycle and ensure you don’t attract another similar relationship.

How to find your Mr Amazing

L-O-V-E … Are you ready for it, but not sure how to go about finding it?

Getting back on the dating scene as a single mum can be exhausting and deflating. It can leave us questioning ourselves and wondering if we will ever find our perfect partner.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

In this podcast I chat to the wonderful Elly Johnson from Truth Lies & Love about how to find your very own Mr Amazing.

In this enlightening chat we discuss the importance of accepting that you deserve nothing but the best in your next relationship; the most common obstacles standing in the way of you finding your Mr Amazing; how to diffuse your limiting belief that your Mr Amazing doesn’t exist; why you should put the same amount of effort into finding a partner, as you do with a job; and why lack of self-confidence can hinder your search and how to overcome it. We finish with Elly’s actionable tips that will guide you into the oncoming path of your very own Mr Amazing.

Why single mum house sharing could be perfect for you

Save $$$ and make life so much easier by home-sharing with another single parent family.

There are so many advantages, but many women don’t know where to start to find the perfect family to share with.

That’s where the wonderful Wilhemina Ford comes in. Willo is the Founder of ShareAbode, which is an Australian first and a not for profit that connects single parents wanting to share the load of rental and living expenses. She makes matching easy and works daily to create harmonious home-sharing situations that will not only save you money, but will save you time, alleviate loneliness and create a live-in support system.

In this podcast we discuss the numerous ways you can save money by sharing a home; how to manage the financial aspects of home-sharing; the many other benefits, besides financial, of sharing a home; the important factors that make a home-share match work; and how you can start the process today to find yourself the perfect home-share family.

Understanding the biology around your breakup

Breakup blues are the worst.

We’ve all had ‘that’ horrible breakup. You know the one which literally puts your life on standstill? Even the seemingly strongest of women can be floored by a lost love.

How you heal, learn and ultimately move-in is incredibly important. But, of course, that is easier than it sounds.

Here I chat to my official Beanstalk Relationship Advisor and Beyond Blue speaker, Leah Sheppherd from Honour Your Breakup about what’s happening within our bodies during this difficult time. For if you can understand WHY you feel the way you do, you have more control over the healing process.

In this fascinating podcast we discuss the ‘three stages of love’ and the affect they have on your brain; the changes within your body and how the chemicals in your body put you in ‘survival mode’ when the breakup happens; actions to speed up the healing of your heart; and why time is not necessarily a healer (but other things are). Finally, Leah shares her absolute top tips to stop hurting and start healing today.