Beanstalk Single Mums

4 Surprising tips to make online dating work for you

YES, it can work and I have seen the proof! So this podcast is all about making online dating work for you. I chat to the perfect person, Sharon Draper who is a psychologist and the relationship expert at eharmony. 

We discuss: Why online dating is a good way for single mums to meet potential partners; the importance of "self" when you online date; resources to get started; timelines around online dating and what not to expect; the new "video date" phenomenon and how it seriously helps the online dating process; and the "adventure" aspect of dating online and how to make it a positive experience.

Helping single mums understand and manage anxiety

Beyond Blue were kind enough to let me borrow their lead clinical advisor, Grant Blashki, to discuss this all-important topic of understanding and managing anxiety as a single mother.

 

Listen to us chat about: What anxiety actually is and the different types (yes, there is more than one type!); the red flags that suggest anxiety is reaching a level where you should take action; simple things you can do during a busy single mum day to help manage anxiety; why it's so important for our children that we manage our anxiety successfully; and where to go for more free support to assess, understand and manage your anxiety.

How to add oomph to your sex life when you're single

Yes! You can have a satisfying sex life with yourself! I talk to Chantelle Otten, Ambassador and resident Sexologist at Lovehoney, Australia's No.1 sexual happiness people.

 

We cover: The benefits of regular and satisfying self-pleasure (this may surprise you); Chantelle's top tips to get started with your sensual self-pleasure journey; sex toys for the novice and something new and exciting to extend your collection; how (as a busy single mum) you can find time for self-pleasure in the bedroom (or bathroom?); and the confidence factor i.e. how to build it and give yourself the confidence to explore.

How to have the best orgasms of your life

I chat to mother and daughter sexperts, Dr Janet Hall and Ella Hall from Women's Pleasure Power about how to have mind-blowing orgasms and a wonderfully fulfilled sex life.

We discuss: Why it's so important to have lots of wonderful orgasms; what a "full body orgasmic state" is and how to achieve it; some sneaky snippets and tips from Dr Jan and Ella's "Claim Your Pleasure Power eCourse"; how to handle low esteem in the bedroom; and points to fine tune solo sex or self pleasure.

Am I drinking too much? And what next if I am?

Love your wine a little too much? You are not alone. More and more mums are turning to alcohol to help ease the stresses of daily life. I chat to Victoria Vanstone from Drunk Mummy Sober Mummy about her story that led her to sobriety and to become a more present and patient mother.

We chat about: Why you don't have be in rehab to admit to a drinking problem; signs that your drinking has reached an unhealthy level; different drinking styles you may resonate with; how kids are affected by a mum who drinks heavily and how they can benefit if you limit or stop; next steps to find support if you are concerned about your alcohol intake; and why it's never too late to address and change your drinking habits

Helping single mum move forward after DV

I speak to Alison Howard from 1800RESPECT to help single mums who are struggling to move forward and live healthy, happy lives following the trauma of a DV relationship.

We discuss: The issues you might experience following a DV relationship; the cycle of domestic violence - what it is and how to break it; advice on parenting with your abuser; how to help your children heal from the impact of the relationship whilst healing yourself; dating again - what to consider, red flags and where to find help; and where to find the support you need to heal from the trauma caused by an abusive relationship.

Dealing with debt and getting your finances back on track

The National Debt Helpline are simply the BEST service. And I am lucky to chat to Deborah Naylor, the NDH Supervisor, who not only has 20 years experience in the financial counselling sector BUT is also a single mum!

We discuss: The stigma around debt and why people find it so hard to reach out; how debt can negatively impact so many areas of your life; how to break-free from a difficult mindset around debt; examples of options available to you when it comes to debt solutions; complex financial situations and how the National Debt Helpline can assist; financial counselling which is non-bias and completely free btw; and how to cope with debt created by another person before a break-up, grrrr ... there are ways.

Guiding teenage boys to grow into healthy, happy men

Maggie Dent and I have a really fascinating chat about raising teenage boys and touch on lots of tips from her new book: From Boys to Men: Guiding teen boys to grow into healthy, happy men.

Amongst other things we discuss: The inner workings of the mind and body of teenage boys and how knowing this can seriously help; tips for chatting to your teenage boy that will keep the peace and defuse conflict; how to "unstick" your unmotivated son; the importance of healthy role models and what to do if Dad is not present or setting a good example; and Maggie's thoughts on how technology can affect your teen boy with key points to deal with it.

Choosing the right private health insurance for your single parent family

Get completely non-bias advice (without the sale) about private health insurance for your single parent family in this chat with Paul Pfitzner from the Private Health Insurance Ombudsman and the brilliant PrivateHealth.gov.au website.

We discuss: How private health insurance works and what is covered; what happens when you separate and whether your current policy will still be valid; what to consider when choosing the right health insurance; a bit about PrivateHealth.gov.au and how it is the only place to compare without the sale; what government incentives and surcharges apply to private health insurance; what is Lifetime Health Cover (LHC) and how it works; and where to go for help if you have a problem with your private health insurance.

Single mum budgeting: Why, how and the tools to use

MoneySmart.gov.au is the BEST personal finance resource and I am excited to chat to the lady who manages it ... Laura Higgins. Our topic: Budgeting. Now, stay with us as it's easier than you think.

 

Listen to us discuss: What a personal budget actually is; the importance of budgeting and tracking your spending; how to simplify the process and make it less overwhelming; the brilliant tools available to help you to budget; top tips to save money if your expenses are too high; how to ensure your money is working for you; dealing with debt through the National Debt Helpline; further support and advice if you are going through financial hardship